Pure white coats - dipped in Red blood!!

"Just a scribble of thoughts on the show today - episode 4"

‘Talwar’ - se Takrar.....the sword is hanging right above my head...
What an episode to prove that authority can never take a decision for people like us...
Mortified of you KK Talwar....you just proved I can never see an action from your side...
We never can expect any healing from you...
“% kehna mushkil hoga....” – what the ‘F’ ... - should I be taking the statistics for you?
You seemed like a 5 year old kid – fumbling for words to justify the question...from Aamir...
I think you would have preferred to have scripted dialogues that would have suited your needs....
Do you need a ten years more to study the situation of the nation and then step on to the action plate...?
Or maybe you can start to take an action once your chair earned you enough bank balance...!!!
A Padma Bhushan in your pocket does not give any damn to me..... rather it makes me ponder whether you know what you need to know of what is MCI?

When thought of writing of the episode – couldn’t help to break out like this...
Made me feel once again....change is possible only through me, through us... only with coming generation....

No one in our society escapes from a doctor or hospital....in their lifetime...
And we can’t stop trusting them - in times of need....in times of emergencies....
“Never hide anything from doctors” – but are they transparent enough to us?
The need for a family doctor.... is become like a must – to – live factor in everyone’s life...
And I got scared – thinking I have only 2 of my friends who are doctors – in my generation. Should I have a doctor friends circle soon?
Have I to be my own savior - by always having a second opinion on any major treatment I am going through...?
I personally have an experience with one of my cousin – where a technician in hospital turned out to act like a doctor and tried to give treatment...
Also the attitude of almost all doctors when they diagnose people above 70 years – like ‘ We have done enough- Old age- Anyway have to die sooner”
Will this ever change.....

The show gave me a shock this time too – where the villagers had to grieve on the uterus removal.... :-(
Whoever did the same looks like forgot that – he/she – came from the same uterus..
And stealing away her own womb, for which she is born for in this world – is the worst anyone can do to her.
Am I really living and breathing the same air..... in such a country?

Can I Say “Enough is enough – All of you doctors be ready to take off your white coats, we are getting you Red ones dipped in blood!!

Initiative of general medicine... is something to look forward... to act upon...
Each one of us at one point will benefit from that for sure... an SMS ‘Y’ for certain this time!!
Atleast half of my retirement money won’t be going on medicines.....!!


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"Just a scribble of thoughts on the show today - episode 3"

Having watched Saturday CL final match and slept late like 4am - somehow managed to wake up at 11.....

My guess turned out to be right this time...
Since last Sunday I was wondering what topic next? that can capture our hearts...that can hit numbers in large...
Dowry issue - nothing other than that....That turned to be the one too....

I don't know - somehow I felt the seriousness just went a little below this time?
The issue discussion somehow went like - "yes yes yes we all know this, society is having this issue", "may be we can try, but this problem is ....."
And about the cutting down prices in marriages, or having simple ritual at own marriage...I wonder how far it would be agreed upon...
Nobody wants to have the so called 'D' day in their life be a dry day... nor any parents of the bride/groom would want to feel they did less for the marriage..
(at least if u ask me, i wouldn't want a too simple one....its a special day... and i should get a little feel of Big Fat Indian wedding)

I liked two of the comment in the show :
"As a woman - I can even give birth to babies, men - you cant even do that..."
"If want to have a big fat wedding, the bride and groom should do it on their expense, not on family expense"

I still have no clue on what path this problem can take for a solution...
Especially in a country like ours -where the word 'Bidhai' comes - for the parents to their daughter - they ought to spend every penny for their daughter.
Is the root grounded firm with our Indian culture?

Strange - but i feel the stories and facts ....makes me wonder - will this issue ever solve?
1) Daughter have to leave her home after marriage... (so y not give her all I have now to my daughter, be it dowry as gold or cash or flat ?)
2) Only her dead body should come out of her sasuraal house...( so y not give her, so she can have a good life with whatever we give)
3) 'Pati Paremeswar' concept - where every girl , and in some states even the bride's father touches the groom's feet!!!
4) Forgive your husband & his family and listen to them - they are you parents, your family now!! (what happened to my parents? (A mom is always a mom, a mother in law can never be my mom)
5) Sath Janam - related stuffs, every other thing related to religions, cultures - makes this word called 'marriage' a big one
6) Most cases parents do think it will be difficult to get a groom- if my daughter becomes over qualified..
7) Plan my son's career and life based on the dowry amount....and put him on the best education
Its all in the mind set - where we are already spoon fed with some things like above,...so hard to change...
Also hardly an open discussion with children and parents comes on marriage expenses....

Is it feasible - that instead of resolving 100 cases, take any one strong tortured case - in dowry related - give punishment to related people...!!
A punishment that you never want in a lifetime.... at least one head gets cut off - for the same - then people may realise...!!
Does it feel too much to CHOP a HEAD in this case? Then here lies the problem - coz some of us still don't feel this as a crime....

You wont believe a conversation I had with one of my colleague.. on why he wants to go Onsite(abroad for work).
"I am planning for marriage in this year...If i go onsite , US of course, at least for 6 months, then my dowry amount will increase by 10 Lakhs, and people will be ready to give a car as well..."
I never heard a better reasoning from anyone for deputation to onsite...it just made me dumb, and left me with no points to argue with him...!!
The fact was then clear to me - its not a problem - no one feels this as a problem.....
Its just like a supply chain market - if you have More Tags attached to you... the More is the price...
So in real aren't the guys carrying a pluck card "Ready for Marriage - Interested in My tags, My price"!!

Pledging not to take dowry, not to give dowry, and moreover not to witness any marriage with dowry system - high hopes and dreams to touch sky!!

But I can do my bit.... I want a man, not a bunch of tags I bought with money!!!
My decision is firm - No giving dowry or taking dowry...!!!


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"Just a scribble of thoughts on the show today - episode 2"


The Sunday alarm woke me up this time at 10am..
Having had an impact with the first episode of it - I felt not to miss..
The topic that got picked out this time is just a strong one.... I would say stronger than first!!

The show followed the same pattern, an intro , statistics, experiences, opinions , what was done over the years ? what action can we do on it?
The introduction was kept to some dialogues as we expected from the perfectionist...
Statistics 53% :- if reported is 53 - it has to be more..isn't it? How many of us - if we were - would still have the dare to say "I was abused sexually when I was a child"
Experience shared :- so daring and brave to come in front of the nation and report it. Hats off to them in having done the same in a country like ours.
What was done over the years :- Felt an unsaid shame that no law has been passed for these ever ; and that oral penetration cannot be considered as a crime? phew..!!!
Action :- fast track to pass the bill - I am in hope - a little hope but not much this time....
Workshop: - Yes it was clear to kids -the idea of body guard is interesting to every one...Every parent has to strive to be one!!
I messaged a 'Y' this time too... A huge movement on corruption had got side tracked ....that bill is in bits and pieces now... I don't now what plight this bill will take in future...
May be my doubt is not the outcome of the action...
I guess I am still unsure if this bill or law will actually resolve the problem or stop an abuser from making a move!!

It does not depend on any law, any country, any rule, any society values...or social status...
The root cause of this is silence...as the show title clearly stated...
And breaking the silence is not so easy....
The natural transition of an innocent soul to a brave soul is just crumbled into pieces - at an age of not knowing how to fix it.
and as said...the real tragedy of life is what dies inside a person while he/she lives...
Whoever gone through this trauma - may never forget or forgive the person for the act....
but when it comes to forgiveness I remember this one recited on Oprah show:
"Forgiveness is giving up hope that the past could have been any different"

I still feel the show may not have impacted or created awareness in all groups...
still there would be many of them out who would sure feel - this will never happen in my family.
The news that come out are related to only children getting abused in schools, sport coaching centers, tuition classes etc....Shocking is when kids or parents who comes out with a case suffer the side effects like one would never had thought!!
Hardly 10% of the cases come out - for an abuser who is inside own family....
So cant blame - there is a natural tendency we all feel - of course cannot be in my family!!! My family and relatives are safe!!

As an elder sister - I remember how cautious I was about my younger sisters - whenever I am with them - taking an extra little care on everything they do, who they are with, where they go, what they talk... keeping on safe side of the road - so no nerveless guy dashes them on purpose, putting them in side seat of the bus...giving money to a auto driver or shopkeeper - making sure no touching on purpose.....and much more...... the list is endless!!!

Its just not up to one child to find his/her bodyguard, its up to all of us to help them find a true one!!!
I feel all the time - the best way is to share our experience to younger ones....
Sharing even the slightest experience one had - like road teasing , poking in crowded bus /trains...
...and discussing with them how we ourselves handled it or how we could have better handled it...
May be in that kind of talks - they get a sense of trust..a bond comes in naturally....and that will make them strong enough to share things to us...

"I can be your bodyguard only if you trust me, so I am ready to share me to build your trust"

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"Just a scribble of thoughts on the show today"

Sunday..Sunday..Sunday...no waking up thinking tomorrow is Monday......
but guess what , I got up at sharp 11...!!
Yeah the Sunday morning wakeup call - didn't want to miss that.
a TV show from the so called perfectionist .. didn’t expect much...I never gave a damn to his crocodile acts!!
I wondered if it just was a celebrity show....something to do with his next film?
But the show just got me glued to the TV....
'Satyamev Jayate' - The episode just gets into one's heart, creeps immediately into the mind..
and it just started bombarding lots of questions in me too...

Yes...the topic was a shameless secret that our country is still holding!!!
The show just kept it simple, brought in statistics, actions...as well..
The darkest act was just not one deed of killing the girl child,
but it gave a shiver in my spine thinking the ripples it gives to us as girls..
This was not new to us, not new to me...the episode gave the cause, the roots of it...
Any magazine or news channel can do this, but I can say this show connected to me!! yeah!!

Went back to my normal Sunday routine, then couched to TV in the evening..
accidentally slipped in with repeat telecast....I watched it again..
Am I going to stay as a potato couch in this case too?
what can I do - I am just a "mango person" the "aam aadhmi" in this country..
I cannot do anything in this case....can I?
hmmm...but yes I still can vote on the same...
Logged into FB, clicked 'Like', shared in my comments, expressed my support!!!
Be it show tactics, or the usual SMS funda's.....in every TV shows....
I didn't care....this time...SMS ed a 'Y' ...

Deep inside a thought came in - I should feel lucky to be born in this country.
I am so glad and I thank my parents, my family for that...they never had a second thought on me....when i was born...!!
and all those ladies and girls..whom i know in my life, my sisters, my friends, my colleagues...yeah guess we need to be lucky our sex is ‘F’ !!!
and....ahh...guess if we are lucky , then we should be glad to be born in this 'Bharat Mata' country !!!

It's too such a short time to judge a show...in the first episode..
Was the topic so catchy to me, being a girl...? anyways was a good one.
And I hope it continues to give me an alarm every Sunday morning!!

'Satyamev Jayate'